Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding

“Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding” is a groundbreaking book that offers a comprehensive and inclusive approach to wedding planning for LGBTQ+ couples. Authored by Kirsten Palladino, the co-founder and editorial director of Equally Wed, an LGBTQ+ wedding resource, the book provides invaluable advice, inspiration, and practical guidance for couples seeking to create a wedding that authentically reflects their love and identity. Addressing various aspects of wedding planning, including jewelry traditions, the book thoughtfully addresses the question: “which order do you wear engagement wedding and eternity rings?

In the context of LGBTQ+ weddings, the significance of rings goes beyond tradition; it embodies the celebration of love, commitment, and the unique journey of each couple. “Equally Wed” recognizes that the order in which these rings are worn can vary based on individual preferences, cultural backgrounds, and personal narratives. The book takes a respectful and inclusive approach, offering insights that embrace the diversity of experiences within the LGBTQ+ community.

The engagement ring traditionally marks the initial commitment between partners. In many cultures, the engagement ring is worn on the ring finger of the left hand. This tradition is rooted in historical beliefs about the “vena amoris” or “vein of love” that ran directly from the left ring finger to the heart. While this tradition holds a meaningful place for many couples, “Equally Wed” acknowledges that there’s no one-size-fits-all answer. LGBTQ+ couples may choose to wear their engagement rings on any finger that resonates with them, reflecting their individual identities and preferences.

As couples move forward in their wedding planning journey, the wedding band takes center stage. The wedding band is a symbol of unity and commitment within a marriage. In traditional ceremonies, the wedding band is exchanged during the wedding vows, representing the promise of a lifelong partnership. The question of which order to wear the wedding band and engagement ring is a common one, and “Equally Wed” offers insight into this decision.

Some couples choose to stack the wedding band and engagement ring together, with the wedding band worn closest to the heart. Others may prefer to wear the wedding band alone, on the ring finger of the left hand, as a symbol of their marital commitment. Ultimately, the choice is a personal one, allowing couples to express their unique love story and preferences.

“Eternity rings” are also explored in the book, reflecting the celebratory moments and milestones within a relationship. These rings are often given to commemorate significant anniversaries, the birth of a child, or other special occasions. Similar to engagement and wedding rings, the placement of eternity rings is a matter of personal choice. Couples may choose to stack eternity rings with their engagement and wedding rings, wear them on a different finger, or even create a separate stack.


“Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding” is a thought-provoking and empowering resource that acknowledges the diverse experiences and stories within the LGBTQ+ community. When it comes to the order of wearing engagement, wedding, and eternity rings, the book encourages couples to honor their own narrative and preferences. The significance of these rings goes beyond tradition, representing the unique love, commitment, and journey of each couple. By embracing individuality and celebrating love in all its forms, “Equally Wed” offers guidance that resonates with the diverse and beautiful world of LGBTQ+ weddings.